There are common patterns to difficulties in relationships. Whatever the underlying issue that sparks a conflict, usually one partner ends up wanting to cut off the interaction and the other wants to push through to get a resolution. Here are some additional typical behaviors you may see if there is distress in your relationship:
- Your partner withdraws when you seek support
- Your partner ignores or dismisses you when you are in distress
- Your partner invalidates your feelings
- You feel criticized or attacked by your partner
- You feel overwhelmed by your partner's demands
- You feel you can never do enough to satisfy your partner
These negative, hurtful patterns are exactly what EFT (Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy) can change.
Solid research shows that EFT shifts partners’ interaction patterns and creates new, positive ways of interacting. I can use the EFT process to help you and your partner discover how you affect each other and to change the patterns that lead to hurt and disappointment.
